Now that the calendar has rolled over to 2016, many folks have come up with a list full of New Years Resolutions. Some resolutions we make are simple to commit to, while other resolutions aren’t nearly as easy.
Angelika Carson, Nurturing Parenting Specialist for Early Success Coalition with the Center for Children and Parents, shared seven tips on nurturing principles for the New Year.
Take care of yourself
A great New Years Resolution is “to thine own self be true.” The Nurturing Parenting Program talks about a principle of nurturing oneself. Taking care of others is a hard task, especially when that person a small little child. However, did you ever stop and think, “Am I giving them all the time and attention they need?”
Sometimes as parents, we forget to give ourselves everything “we” need. We want to invoke our own personal power to meet our own personal needs, whether be socially, physically, intellectually, creatively, emotionally or spiritually. All of these are human needs. In the New Year, pledge to nurture yourself first so that you can be better for the ones you care for and deeply love.
This notion of caring for oneself is a blossoming tree effect; if I care for me then I can in return be more empathetic toward the needs of my children.
Feelings of Attachment
The security that children feel from their parents means they feel loved unconditionally. When children feel loved unconditionally, communication, trust and respect naturally follow.
While bonding with your child during feeding, the comfort of being held is appropriate use of gentle touch. When holding your child, the parent and child are connecting through touch, which helps to stimulate brain growth in the child.
Expectations and Self-Worth
When you and your child are connected, then the expectations are clear. As a parent, know what your child can and cannot do and you discover new ways to encourage and uplift them. You will develop ways for your child to succeed. Then you are developing that child’s self-concept, which promotes positive self-esteem and creates positive self-worth in that child as an individual.
As a parent, showing our children how to properly display emotions is important. Showing all emotions is healthy and acknowledging them is important.
Helping children regulate their emotions teaches them discipline. You are teaching your children boundaries and guidelines. If the child is not taught what is expected of them then how do they know what is considered to be right and wrong.